Different people have different insights towards life. So many different things come in one’s mind when comes to life and culture. While it is different in both eastern and western culture, but still people prefer different cultures inside and outside their homes. It’s different for girls, not similar to what is selected for boys. It’s different for those who are married inside the family as compared to those who are from another family.
Nothing is same for every woman. So many problems arise just because other women want something else. Why it is that woman is always envy. Education is for boys, real estate is for boys, freedom is for boys, and rights are for boys. To obey is for girls, to shut up and watch is for girls, and in the end, she is ridiculed in front of every family member that she is not the right person for her man, her children, she can not give right teachings to her children and divorce is given.
Another fact is that “Perda” (a word means to cover the whole body) is for both man and woman, but it is considered only for woman. Islam has numerous other concepts and teachings, but why only “Perda” is considered Islam. A girl is not allowed to study more because it is said that she has to cook food and take care of her husband and children so, to study more is of no use for her. Why is it that in Islam combined family system is disliked but still men and his family want the married couple to live in combined family system, why is it that in Islam it is said that it is the moral right of every man and women to get educated, but girls are never allowed to study more. I have not seen any book on Rights and Duties on mother and father-in-laws still, it is said, a girl has to look after them. There is no problem in looking after them but she should be treated well. Why Hadiths are used to offend women, to make her obey, to make her surrender, whereas, same Hadiths could be applied for other family members (her in-laws). Is this what we call a Married Life?
So many things are happening in this society but there are few who talk about this. Why it is that a mother in law considers her daughter in law cunning just because her son is with her and they seem happy, but when it comes to her daughter and son-in-law she thinks he is good because her daughter is happy. It is all unjust happening. Mothers are unjust and are not what they should be. A boy is not nourished and guided well in his childhood. One should keep in mind that he has to get married to someone’s daughter in the future. A boy should be brought up really well because he would be the head of the family. A woman, a mother of a boy should keep in her mind that she is having great responsibilities as she is having a son, and this son is going to bring somebody’s daughter with him. He should be responsible enough in order to lead his and his family’s life at its best. But this is opposite in our culture. A girl is taught by her mother how to be responsible; she is the one who has to take care of the family instead of her husband. If this is the case then why husband is considered the head of the family in Islam. If this is the scenario then why just husband is considered superior. People think they follow Islam but this is not true. It is all fake. Fake people with fake faces.
I have seen this in Pakistan that fathers do not talk to his children the way he should talk. And a mother is always good to her sons but not to her daughters. It is thought that a daughter has to leave her home when she will get married and this is her temporary home. A mother never treats her daughter nicely. This treatment and behaviour vary from mother to mother. Most of mother are house wives and are living in joint families. Why they do this to their daughters isn’t it unjust?
A daughter has to leave that home anyway, and would be treated badly (mostly) so why not treat her well when she is with you!
What is this nonsense going on in our society and no one wants to stop this? When it comes to torture, abuse, and other types of bad behaviours one thing is common i.e. Woman v/s Woman.
It has been made her nature to be like this and to act like this. If one is not acting like this, she is said that you are not having the girlish qualities you seem like a boy, are you a tranny?
It is all about woman v/s woman in Pakistan and other South Asian countries.
It is making married lives miserable which is NOT worth living.
A girl is when married, wants a happy life and wants her mother in law to be her mother, but this is not the case these days. One should take care of her so that she could feel better and behave better, instead of making her your enemy. She is a girl and a daughter, take care of her, she needs your help. She has stepped in a new life, she needs your guidance and appreciation .